“But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!” — Galatians 5:22-23
A few weeks ago, I saw something on the Internet that gave me concern. It was a situation of how someone got herself into a relationship based on the giftings she saw in an individual. The person she had gotten into a relationship with is well-known amongst Christian circles. Although I didn’t have a close relationship with this person, I could discern from afar that the Fruit of the Spirit was lacking in the way they conducted their life & affairs. To cut the story short, the lady had to severe the relationship because of the fruit that was lacking.
This story gave me grave concern. I thought to myself, “How can something so evident to someone afar, not be noticed during the early stages of acquaintance by the person in a relationship with this individual?”
I posted my thoughts on my WhatsApp story later that day, and a dear friend responded. Her response answered my question, and that is what I am going to focus on today.
In her words;
“The thing is you can fake power but you just can’t fake relationship!
The gifts are more like power. The fruits only come in a relationship with God.
So, when you see only gift without fruit, straight away, you know there’s an inconsistency.
While meditating on this thing, God told me it applies to future partners as well.
People are looking out for tongue-speaking, dead body raising and sickness healing partners when the first things we should look out for is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
The latter is the only evidence of a person who has been made one with Christ and is in sync with the Holy Spirit.
The former can be forced, faked and demonstrated by anyone, under influence, whether godly or not.
It is a religious mindset that we have adopted without even knowing.
We exalt power above relationship, and it is so detrimental to people’s growth because it influences their choices and decisions. So they end up always choosing wrong because they went for someone with power instead of someone who has a relationship with God.
The relationship is what validates the power and not the other way around.”
Her response reminded me of 1 Corinthians 13:1 which says;
“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.”
Have you heard a clanging cymbal? I have served in the music department at church, and I can tell you for free that a clanging cymbal is the most infuriating sound ever!
I have come to understand that the mark of true Christianity is evident in the fruit a person bears and not necessarily their gifting. The Gifts of the Spirit are lovely to have, don’t get me wrong. It is a privilege and an honour to possess a divine gift, I can never trivialise it.
But like my friend asked;
“How can someone be moving mountains but they cannot say sorry? What kind of misplaced power is that? That is what we endorse when we exalt power above relationship.”
So, I ask you today, are you bearing fruit? Do you exhibit love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control in all your dealings? Or do you allow your flesh control you?
We must all yield to the Holy Spirit and bear fruit.
You and I face situations daily that are opportunities to cultivate fruit. We must remain spiritually sensitive, so we don’t miss such opportunities.
I leave you today with a passage from the Bible, and I urge you to meditate on it.
“I am the true grapevine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch of mine that doesn’t produce fruit, and he prunes the branches that do bear fruit so they will produce even more. You have already been pruned and purified by the message I have given you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. For a branch cannot produce fruit if it is severed from the vine, and you cannot be fruitful unless you remain in me. “Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I, in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.” — John 15:1-5
Let me know your thoughts on this topic in the comments, I’d love to hear from you.
Remember to bear fruit this week 🍉🍋